When it comes to having more control in your business it is vital to have strong but flexible boundaries.
The tricky thing is, getting the balance right and to remain in control. Otherwise it’s all too easy for other people’s interests to take precedence over your own.
There are essentially 4 types of boundaries:-
A person with soft boundaries basically has no boundaries. There’s no distinction between them and other people. They can either be completely narcissistic, on one end of the spectrum, or on the other end they’re really easily manipulated, disempowered, controlled or taken advantage of.
What really deﬁnes somebody with spongy boundaries is that they’re either inconsistent or unsure of what to let in and what to keep out. For example, this might show up as somebody who has to ask the opinion of a lot of people ﬁrst before they know what to do. They can sometimes be a little overly rigid, and then they’ll ﬂip-¬‐ﬂop the other way. There’s a lot of inconsistency.
Going to the place of being rigid can lead a person to the point where they cut themselves oﬀ from opportunity which is not great either. A person with rigid boundaries is closed or walled oﬀ. They don’t let people get close to them as a form of protection which results in being closed off to possibilities.
The last one is flexible. This is somebody who has distinct boundaries but has a sense of control so there’s a little bit more margin or flexibility for give and take without being manipulated or exploited. They understand and are making a conscious choice about what they’re doing and are in control.
Though fairly resistant and consistent they have some ﬂexibility that comes from more certainty and conﬁdence so they can decide clearly what to let in and what to keep out.
Ask yourself where you are on this scale in most situations? And how you can move towards being more flexible.
A few tell-tale signs that your money boundaries could be slipping are if
• You often feel uncomfortable discussing money
• You have not substantially increased your income over the past year
• You often under value what you are worth
If any of these are true for you and you are ready for this to be different, take my tip and focus on strengthening your boundaries.
Aim for flexible boundaries that value yourself while honoring others, and apply them so you’ll have more control and soon begin to make and keep more money in your business – and your life.